On a better note, Someone once told me what the secret to a good marriage is. She said, "You have to be his friend before you can be his wife" . I could not agree more with that statment. I myself am in a marriage that proves opposites attract. A few months ago I started wondering what my marriage had to offer me. Then I realized that I was saying me. The real question I should have been asking is what do "We" bring to the table on "Our Marriage". So I sat down and wrote out of list of pros and cons. To my surprise, It was a tie. Which to me was a little of a shocker. However what kills me is that most romance films always give you that mushy feeling, you know what I mean. Guy meets girl, They fall in love and at the end of the movie, you hear the loud music and they look into each others eyes and then the cressindo comes in and applause follows. Well, I do have to say everytime I kiss my husband I do not hear the Phillidelpha Phillharmonic in the background...Does that mean I missed out on the magic? LOL. However, what kills me is that the movie ends on a beautiful note, however they never tell you what happens after that magical moment. Did their love live on? Did they stay married for a long time? Did it end in divorce? How did they deal with the really hard moments in life that test the binds of marriage. The moments that feel like you may be at the point of loseing it all and then fall in love all over again? The trails and errors, and heartache, and tears, and laughter, and comprimise that all goes into any Marriage. Thats the movie I want to see...wait I think Joan Crawford did that one already. Anyhow, I am no stranger to Love, heartache, Lust, and life lessons. However let me share the second best advice that I can give you. The first Valentine you should have this year...is to yourself. Give yourself something as well as your loved one. After all, you do have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. So buy yourself something, no matter how big or small (however try to not out do your significant other) You don't want them to feel bad.
Next, Guys let me talk to you for a minute. Please do not assume today. Please remember that if we say "We don't want anything" ...We do. Another thing, If she says "I will do whatever you want to do" she is lying, please grill her until you figure out where she really wants to go. Trust me sitting in front of the TV or saying lets stay in is not a good idea, even if she says it is. However the most important point to remember "Treat her like a queen today"! "She is always right"! (Even if you know she is wrong, choose your battles wiseley) and make sure she is the most important woman in the world. If all else fails, Buy her choclates and Roses, get naked and tie a huge bow around yourself and say "You got me for valentines" ...Yes its mushey ,but trust me it works! Good Luck.
Women...Let's get one thing out in the open now. We are difficult! Today do not expect him to read your mine. Help him out a bit. He already feels like hes running through a mine field. Our job is to make sure he makes it to the other side without blowing himself up. Please be straight forward with him, and do not expect a long winded anwser to questions like "Do you still love me?" or "Where would you like to go". Men have very short attention spans. If you ask that they may tell you the truth, and we always get mad. Why!? We asked! So today let him find his own groove, but don't make it to hard for him either. Remember he is with you becuase in his opinion he would be lost without you...Girls he is not lying. LOL
So Now that I have sounded like Dr. Ruth here, I am going to sign off with, Love yourself, Love each other, Be each others Friends. Love comes in many forms. Have a good Valentines Day today folks. BTW-These tulips are what my husband got me....I got him an HDMI cable....yeah like I said...simple.
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